Wednesday, April 26, 2006

No Hope...

I believe that 'Di Sebalik Setiap Kejadian, Pasti Ada Hikmahnya'. Well, I hope I still believe in that.

We HAVE to send back our current maid home. That is final say. Muktamad, and could not be revoked. Though I still hope there is miracle somewhere.

Hubby went to see the doctor that did the X-Ray for the first time, just as per his advise. He instructed hubby to do a second X-Ray, at another Fomema's panel. Apparently, that seems to be the procedure should the first one showed negative/abnormal result. So, my maid did a second X-Ray at a clinic somewhere in Jalan Pudu.

The X-Ray result this time around is more alarming than the first. It shows that the inflammation at her heart, has left white spottings at her lung, which is a sign of Tuberculosis (or better known as Tibi). This disease could be spread by air. Yikes! But since most of us here in Malaysia have taken early immunisation, thus the probability for us to be infected by the disease is rather small (but we still want to do a family check-up to confirm this).

A great task for me is when I have to break the news to my maid. Just as expected, she broke into tears when I told her the news. But she recovered quickly by saying "Semua ini ketentuan Allah. Rejeki pun ditangannya. Mudah-mudahan rezeki saya lebih besar di Indonesia." This time around I broke into tears. I could not help it. I know how hard it is to earn a living back there, and with the disease she have, a single parent and no money for medication, how will that help her to ease her burden.

On the other hand, our family has to fork-up extra money to get a new maid, who might not be as reliable, religious and good as her.

I brought up this matter to mak and abah. Mak decided to do some "amal jariah" by saying she wants to get Bibik some medication before she left Malaysia coz Mak knows she could not afford to pay for the medication without any salary. So hubby and I decided to appeal to Imigration Dept for an extension of stay so we could prepare the necessary rather than having to send her on this 2nd of May.

Alhamdulillah, she got an extension of one month stay with us. That allows Abah to check out the fee and procedure at Pusat Respiratori Kebangsaan. From the info that Abah gathered, the fee is around RM100 ++ (excluding medication). Mak said she'll take care of that. The extension of stay also allows me to apply for Ashraff's passport since me, Abah and Mak plan to follow Bibik to Indonesia (hubby tak boleh ikut sebab tempat kerja baru takde cuti..poor fellow!). Apart from that, we can help Bibik to find some recipe books and baking tools as she planned to bake and sell some Malaysian cookies in Indonesia (something similar to what she did before she decided to come here).

At the same time, we have to start find a new maid. And as usual, our criteria will be:-
1) Age 30-35 years old.
2) At least two children.
3) Wear hijab (preferably dalam rumah pun just like our current maid).
4) Has previous working experience (tak penting sangat but kalau dapat macam ni, tak payahlah we all nak ajar step by step on what to do).
5) A widow (we believe that kalau widow ni, dia desperate to earn a living here to besarkan anak-anak so they will work properly and sincerely).

Basically those were our personal guideline and opinion on finding the right maid. But, this all depends on Rezeki dan Ketentuan Allah. I'm just hoping that I'll find a maid just like Aidah or better than Aidah...

10 comments:

Unknown said...

babe good luck in finding a good one, i know its not easy these days.....how much to get a new maid eh?

rafiqaheliza said...

Fina: Oh yeah, not easy at all. Esp now that my expectation is high since my 1st maid is good. My agent's fee is RM3500 (not including medical check-up, levy etc). June ni naik lagi feenye..sakit woo!!

Nana said...

oh dear! oh well, there is a reason for all this to happen. it's nice to know that your parents want to help her out medically.

don't worry ija, all will be well.

Kaklong Syikin said...

assalamualaikum..

blog hop drp blog hot mama.

sukanya saya baca layanan baik awak pd maid, even your parent as well.

yelah, dah dia layan keluarga kita dgn baikkan.

moga Allah mudahkan awak dpt pnegganti maid yg baik spt maid ini or better than her, certainly with a good health condition.:)

bagusnya nak hantar dia balik sana lagi. moga selamat pergi n pulang

Hot Mama said...

Hi there, tq for dropping byat my blog!
Anyway sorry to hear abt your maid.. It is not easy to find a good maid nowadays.. I'm just lucky that i have an indon maid who is like a mother to me,she has been working for us for more than 15 years.. Btw she is not a widow.. Hehehe

So good luck in your search.. Hope you get a new one soon before your second baby is due..

MrsZee said...

fiqah dear......didn't know you have a blog. found out when i visited rotidua's.

my hanna was diagnosed with skin tb (i'm sure you know about this. posted some news last week in ampang ummies group. we didn't think the source is from people around her as in bibik sbb bibik's check-up (with fomema) came out ok. the rest of us has not gone through any test yet
but i doubt she got it from us. but i guess, just to be on the safe side, we still need to go and get checked

-sugarfloss-

Anonymous said...

what is ampang ummies group?

i think it's very noble of you and your mak to help Bibik's medication and stuff. Dia tak perasan ke dia tak sihat.

rafiqaheliza said...

Nana: Hoping to see a light at the end of the tunnel, in the form of a reliable maid..

Syikin: Waalaikumusalam, thanks for dropping by..Guess, it takes two to tango. Kalau baik yg kita dapat, haruslah dibalas dgn baik jugak-:) Thanks for your prayers!

Hot mama: Maid who is like a mother?! Oh lucky you! So far, track record kata a mid-age widow is a good maid...tapi berat tang health condition pulak...

rafiqaheliza said...

Mrszee aka sugarfloss: Oh yeah, I read about that. How is ur Hanna doing? Yes, I know we must all do the check-up. Takutlah kan, nauzubillah...

Roti2: Ampang Ummies ni a group formed by all ummies who resides in Ampang, Cheras, Gombak area..Mau join ka?

Hmmm..nak kata tak prasan tak sihat tak jugak, coz kitaorg pun ada prasan dia batuk2. But batuk dia tak teruk. Cuma once in a blue moon. So, we took it for granted. Selera ada, she doesn't look fatigue, and tak pernah demam for the past 1 yr. Tu yg kinda shocking to see the result.

Cherry said...

may Allah bless you and your family with more rezeki for all yr kind deeds. walahhh siap nak hantar bibik lagi. which part of Indonesia. kalau Bandung, you should shop for baby stuffs - best gilerrr you. my ccurrent maid ni (dah 6 yrs with me) last month check ada high blodd pressure. now on medicationa nd bi-weekly checkup. i'd go the extra mile to keep here with me - safe and healthy.