Wednesday, November 10, 2010

What's in store for 2011?

Hello! I'm backkkk....home sweet home....

Oh yes, I should have make an entry about our Perth trip but instead I intend to complete and publish this entry first. I have been drafting this entry for the last two weeks but still haven't got time to complete it.

Shall talk about Perth in the next entry...

2011...still another two months to go...but for me here, I could feel the heat already. There's so many things in store for that year which makes me shiver everytime I think of it. Let me see what we got in store...basically there are 3 major events that will take place...

1. To begin with, Ashraff shall enter Standard One next year. That alone is a major shift for us and to Ashraff especially. To Ashraff, he will have to face bigger school, bigger school kids, new toilet, new teacher, handling of his own money, a more hectic timetable, lots of homework, heavier subjects etc.

And to us having to deal with the above could cause a lot of headaches. We have to be stricter serious parents when it comes to making sure that he finishes his homework on time. This means we have to do a lot more monitoring. With another two smaller kids in tow plus no helper, that can be a great hurdle for us..I hope we can managed..and I hope Ashraff can makes things easier for us..

2. Hubby..is seconded to Pasir Gudang for two years...starting this December. He shall be going to Johor to train two new executives. Together this with this secondment is a promotion. The Board has approved for this secondment and Hubby is only waiting for the official letter of appointment. So basically it hasn't 100% confirmed as yet...but big probability is there.

Me, I have no choice but to support him. He is looking forward for a promotion so this is one good opportunity for him. Plus the money is good - increase in salary and allowances. But deep down, I dont like the idea of long distance relationship. I've heard of too many marital problems arise when husband and wife live far apart. My initial plan is to take a 2-year unpaid leave and follow Hubby to Johor. But then, not having any support system in the form of Mak Ampang or a maid could cost me a lot of trouble. Hubby will be working and I will be taking care of the kids alone for at least 10 hours in a day. That could drive me insane! I can never be a typical housewife...I'm not up to the challenge.

So the next best thing is to stay in KL. Hubby will be going back every weekend for his MBA classes. Well, at least for the 1st 6 months of 2011, I'll see him during weekends. After that, it's all up to him.

In this case, let me correct my last sentence in item (1) above. With 2 small kids in tow, no helper, and no Hubby to help, it's a major hurdle for me...I don't know whether I can handle it. And that brings me to no 3...

3. I'm 8 weeks pregnant. I'm due somewhere in June next year. It was totally unplanned. Well, at least not this fast. Dah rezeki...so I accept it with an open heart. So I'm expecting another 20 kilos extra weight next year...just like my other pregnancies.

This time around, the first trimester wasn't as bad as with Aliff or Aqieff. I have minor nausea...threw up few times but other than that, I'm fine.

I have bring up the notion to get a maid. I really think handling 4 kids aged 7 years old and below is something that I could not manage alone.

I don't know..there's too many things to absorb at one go. Seriously, if you asked me, I'm scared to face the incoming days...I just pray hard that Allah will make our life much easier...

Oh yeah, basically the reason why I intend to post this entry first before the holiday entry is because I don't want people to see me in my holiday photos and wondering "gemuknya Rafiqah..."...

7 comments:

Zaitul said...

hey youuu...so number 4 is on the way huhh...congrats. dont worry. Insya Allah everything will fall into its places. Doa byk2 ok. Take care =)

butterflutter said...

uh..oh..oh....Semoga dipermudahkan segala urusan. InsyaAllah.

Still accept order for bookmark?

UjieUllfia said...

UIshh Ija..no 4 is coming. Congratulations anyway. Tak terkejar aku..hehehe...Take care.

Anonymous said...

Congrats Rafiqah for the all the good news, gaji naik n rezeki anak.

I was at first nak suggest you to just take unpaid n jaga the kids. Mula2 mmg susah, after a while everything wud be a routine for you but tak jadi suggest bila baca about yr number 4 hehe. Takpelah, kalau stress2 nanti, just write on the blog ya.

Asyraf masuk sekolah mana nanti? My doter Hureen masuk SRAI at gombak.

Oh ya, pls tell us details about your Perth trip ya. Rasa mcm nak pegi next year but not sure Perth ke Melbourne ke mana, nak carik best place for us n kids.

Take care.
Hasina

ChentaHati said...

Ija... it's me Ida. saya dah ada blog baru.
1. congrats for the no. 4. moga2 dapatlah girl... ibu boleh buat kawan. ur no. 4 mesti tough sebab ibu dia tough masa peknenkan dia. take care!

2. it's ok kalau jauh2... nothing to worry actually. mula2 mmg terasa sgttttt! tapi lama2 ok... lagi pun hubby tu dekat je, boleh balik everyweek kalau tak bz. lagipun u dduk dekat dgn ur mom kan. good luck!

Unknown said...

rafiqah - congratulations....4th time mom...woww...dunno how you do it...u'll get through, no worries..

Ayu AU said...

Salam, congratulations...
semoga tabah menghadapi hari2 mendatang... Allah dh tentukan semua tu.. take care sis...